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  1. 3 points
    Do they also explain why they think homosexuality is a sin? If it is, then being straight is a sin too. Having sex for pleasure is sinful as well. Divorce. Kissing in public. Holding hands. My list could go on! But I'm beginning to feel a rush of mad feelings and would like to make them go away!
  2. 3 points
    I know the answer to my question is definitely "no", but before anyone jumps in, please hear me out. I once dated a guy who I felt was criticizing me a lot. Needless to say we're not together anymore, but being with him got me thinking. I believe if someone wants to be with me, then they gotta like the whole me. But if there are small things that bother them, I'd be willing to 'adapt'. Small things like, how much lip gloss I'm wearing or sending too many "cutesy" messages. It's small stuff, so not a big deal. But when they criticize stuff and compare you to others, that's too much, right? I've once literally been told I should change the way I dress and be more like his sister. Well, that was a deal-breaker! So, what about you? Where's your limit in a relationship? How much criticism are you willing to take in the name of love?
  3. 2 points
    I believe relationships have to have a certain amount of trust, without it, I believe it's impossible to have one. When certain things happen in relationships, it's hard not to become Inspector Gadget. A lot of couples have no problem showing each other their phones, it shows your partner you have nothing to hide and they can inspect all they want. But when does this start to become a problem? When does this action start pissing the other off? I personally don't have a problem letting anyone search my phone, because I know I'm not holding any secrets in it. What about you? Do you let your partner look through your phone? Or do you feel it's an invasion of your privacy?
  4. 2 points
    hello im sexysassy real name is renee let chat
  5. 2 points
    I'm not sure if this is the right category for this thread but I wasn't sure where to post it, so... Sorry about that. [emoji16] We all have had bad experiences when it comes to dating: if is not the person, is the situation, and if it's not the situation is the universe conspiring in order to make a hot mess of the whole date. What has been your worst date? Mine was with a guy who won't stop talking about video games and how cool he was, literally that was all we talked about the whole date while we were walking on the crowded downtown for about five hours on a really hot summer day. I've never seen that guy after that and I'm really glad about it.
  6. 2 points
    I think when a lot of us think of health we think of working out, eating right, and things like that...but how about mental health, too? I've definitely had times in my life where I have had bouts of depression and anxiety - I still do grapple with anxiety a little bit - I have learned techniques to manage it better, and that helps - but I always think it's important to know the things in life that calm you, or make you feel happier. Working out does that for me, or getting a cup of coffee and having a chat with a friend, or spending time with my pets (animals are the BEST for making me feel better when I'm down - I think they just know!!) and so I try and engage in those kind of activities. What do you do to look after yourself and keep mentally healthy?
  7. 2 points
    I believe my phone is private and I didn't like it when my ex looked through my stuff, I never cheated or anything but if he saw some messages he didn't understand or liked, immediately he came to me and asked who's this, why do we message, what does those words mean and that was not very pleasant, especially since we were in the middle of our divorce. Until my ex moved out, we have had many problems with respecting each other's privacy
  8. 2 points
    My hubby and I are both open with each other and we don't hide any secrets so our phones are placed anywhere in the house. I can use his phone and so does he can use mine. I just don't like him playing games on my phone since he drains the battery and he ruins the gameplay for me LOL
  9. 2 points
    Lol cute responses. 😂 Can I add a point? There are lingerie for both men and women so please don't take it for granted that I am exclusively talking about women. @Laneorexorcist got it right. Well, I am a fan of lingerie. The way they feel and make you feel is something only a wearer and perhaps the viewer knows! 😂😆 I haven't tried buying one online but its something I definetely want to try. Luckily, most of my lingerie collection is part of gifts (smart)😉 people have given me. The few that I bought were from local stores that were only too happy to give me at discounted prices as they had no takers in my area. (I live in a boring place😆😅). Next time you think about gifting me, you know what you need to buy😂😂😆😅.
  10. 2 points
    Wow, people say the weirdest things! I've never had the "pleasure", seeing how only my sister knows my "big lesbian secret", but she's been very supportive and very OK with it, so she hasn't said anything weird since I told her
  11. 2 points
    Reading these is both funny and sad at the same time Ready to hear mine?Here goes: One day, I told a guy at work that I'm not interested in dating other guys, because I have a girlfriend. After the few moments it took him to 'wake up' from the shock, he actually asked me if we used contraceptives. What kind of a question is that?
  12. 2 points
    Yep, and I also think people with a lot of flings will hardly get trusted when they started to commit in a serious relationship because the new partners might think that these people are not serious about the relationships.
  13. 2 points
    This is surely the worst case scenario when a partner is trying to change their SOs. The feelings is probably like when my mom complained about me to my school friends right in front of me. It felt so embarrassed and heartbreaking too.
  14. 2 points
    Hello, Audrey and welcome to this forum! You actually seems to be the coolest mom, and also your nickname is really original! It's great to have members of all types here, diversity is always the key! I really hope that you have a great time here, I'm looking forward to see you around!
  15. 2 points
    We all have our flaws or rather characters that others/partners may not approve of. We do wish that we see our partners the way we want. Most times this is just not possible. While it is good to gently correct things which are obviously bad habits like smoking etc, when a person is unable to change little things like being fast or pre-plan as things like this do not naturally come to everyone, then it is wise to let them just be instead of nagging your whole life about the same. I have seen partners even complaining to their in laws about their partners flaws or in a friend's circle. Something I feel is very heart breaking.
  16. 2 points
    You had me Google it up since I am poor with trees apart from few common ones and I have to admit that it looked absolutely beautiful. I believe it must have some cultural significance because the word Sakura rings a bell.
  17. 2 points
    @to7update that wasn't the only reason I broke it off. LOL, now that I read my reply earlier, I do sound awful! I have to be more careful when I tell you guys about this stuff I broke things off with that particular guy because for every compliment he gave me, he criticized 10 other things. More or less.. Which makes me think of a topic I'm gonna start ASAP!
  18. 2 points
    I couldn't agree more. Setting rules to ourselves can be almost restrictive and at the end of the day, pointless. Also, I really liked the part that we don't need to make the whole kissing process perfect, when the right time is here we will know it and it would be spontaneous and silly as a first kiss should be.
  19. 2 points
    Yes once a person broke your trust, it would be difficult to give it again, or even impossible. There will always be doubts in all of their words and actions. Thankfully I was able to forgive and give back my trust, and I never doubt a word he said because I can feel that he is sincere, and time proved it So I guess time can really change people, for the better
  20. 2 points
    I have never thought about having trees as a favourite! Now that you have implanted that idea, it got me thinking. I really have no favourites and so I Google searched only to realise how beautiful trees can be.
  21. 2 points
    You are absolutely right Time can change everything, that's why we have to spend it wisely. I also experienced that situation where I get jealous with every girl that hangs out around my hubby, perhaps it's because of what he did to me before and because I don't trust him. I always thinks that he might cheat again and I always blame him for what I'm feeling. All he did was to accept the blame and assured me he will never do anything stupid again. I guess it's pretty normal for us to become jealous, it just means that our partner means a lot to us and that we are scared of what things that might happen. That's why it's very important in a relationship to communicate so both parties will know each other's feelings and problems, and so they could also be aware if they are hurting their partner unintentionally. Me and my hubby are also celebrating our 6th year being together we are very happy and so in love
  22. 2 points
    My favorite tree has to be the pink Magnolia! It's just such a feminine tree, so gracious and fragile, and it just smells so much like spring. I also have very fond memories from when I was little and my parents used to 'drag' me out of the house to see the magnolias blooming. I so didn't want to go, winter makes me wanna stay in and be warm, but once I got to the trees I was glad my parents yelled at me to get dressed already
  23. 2 points
    OMG you guys, your advice is golden! You're all right, it's just to weird to just ask her out out of the blue. I was thinking it would have been nice if we had at least 1 class together, but we don't ... and waiting 'till next semester is too much.. For now I just "stalk" her around lunchtime... We've only made small talk so far. I had my own lunch, but yesterday I saw her standing in line and managed to chit-chat about pie. It cost me $5.99, but I'm doing my best to get to know her She was with her friends so I couldn't just sit myself down with them, but I never would have done this say, 1 year ago I didn't even think to join extracurricular activities! Thank you SO MUCH for the idea, @DeeRaw! I haven't heard of any LGBT clubs though.. hmmm, I'll ask around! Totally My family are very open minded and friends too (at least I get that impression each time we talk about sensitive topics). School is a safe place, seeing how others are openly gay as well. So, yeah, I think I'm gonna be alright.
  24. 2 points
    LOL, really @pwarbi? I am really out of that world, as I try to communicate the least virtually. Taking anyone for granted is a BAD idea, even more if it's our partner we are talking about. With friends the same thing of course, we should value them for what they are, under the risk of losing their friendship. Everything will start with a small distance that will just keep growing. It's pretty much like they say, keep your friends closer, and your best friends even closer!
  25. 1 point
    Society puts so much unnecessary pressure on all of us, it's great to hear other people have easily accepted their sexuality! Very uplifting for a rainy saturday morning
  26. 1 point
    Hey Kitty, Welcome in joining us first of all, that's a bit unfair for you but I don't exactly know why your mom reacted in a different way. Does age has something to do with it? Since your brother is 27 seen as matured yet you're 17, which is probably the reason why your mom suggested that it's a phase. I know it's heartbreaking getting different treatment compared to your siblings, but I won't prove anything to her now since that's what she decided. Eventually your mom will know you're serious about it when you have a partner or stable relationship etc. I know it's easy to say than done. Perhaps you can ask her why when your brother came out she reacted positively? Also have you talked about this to your brother?
  27. 1 point
    Well, I'm not that happy with the "trans" option, because the majority of trans people are either male or female, and just a few of us are non binary. So, I think that it would be good to have a male female and other category, but the "trans" one seems a little bit aggressive for me.
  28. 1 point
    Out actress Kristen Stewart has publicly responded to President Trump's creepy obsession with her. View the full article at PinkNews.co.uk
  29. 1 point
    I don't even know if I've ever been on a "romantic" date because as far as I can remember, I never had one. Well if going out with someone without being intimate or just being friends then therefore, I've been on a date plenty of times. I don't have any special or weird dates though, but the common thing about them all is that the dates are always "comedy" and never romantic, and I always end up eating my date's food because he can't stop laughing LOL
  30. 1 point
    Maybe you all may find it funny but I will never forget my first and last date with a particular girl my batch mate during business school for a movie and dinner that I went to watch on her invitation. The movie was a sad story about sour relations and the girl continually wept keeping her head on my shoulders. I could hardly stand the scenario and stopped meeting that girl because she was not my type anyway.
  31. 1 point
    That is one tough situation. Falling in love with someone close to you, and yet you don't know how to tell them because you are afraid you might lose the friendship both of you treasured because of your confession. I agree with @to7update, you said that you're sure that she is definitely not a lesbian so from there, I think you have the idea what's the best thing to do as she might not be interested in having a relationship with a girl. Letting her know will make you feel better and either you will accept whatever her response are and continue with your friendship, or both of you will feel awkward about it and lose your friendship, but I hope not. But it's still your call
  32. 1 point
    I understand what you say with double life, but in my particular case it's not a matter of faking it or putting on an act, it's a simple matter of understanding the situation and changing because we do understand. I don't agree with all she says, but in some things she is right, I am better off changing. Everyone has things that can be improved.
  33. 1 point
    I have just come to know about this App. I will definitely download it on one of my phones at my first opportunity. Probably that will keep me more connected with this site )
  34. 1 point
    One would think that, in a lesbian relationship, both women would cook, but they would be wrong! I have only recently learned how to cook a thing or two. I had to! My girlfriend is a disaster in the kitchen! Let's just say I love her for other reasons.. I have many recipes bookmarked so when I need to cook something, I follow the exact instructions. I'm getting a lot better at it and my girlfriend might just stay with me because I feed us both hahah!!
  35. 1 point
    I'ma smoker and have been for a number of years now although I have quit for a couple of years in the past but then all of a sudden started again. If you have a genuine reason to stop like you had @to7update like it's affecting your health, or like a lot of other people have said for financial reasons, then I do think that it's a lot easier. I gave up because at the time I was spending to much and I had more important things to spend my money on. Now I'm on a higher wage, comfortable in life with no health issues and so I enjoy having an occasional cigarette. I suppose one good thing is that I've only ever smoked maybe 2 or 3 cigarettes a day anyway, and while it's obviously still harmful it's not a massive issue for me, and some days I can go without having any at all but I do feel better knowing that if I wanted one then I always have a packet on me.
  36. 1 point
    I know a lot of people have a preference for which OS they prefer, so I thought I'd ask here what your preferences are! Personally, for smartphones I prefer Android because there's a lot of apps available, but you have more of a choice of device you can use and at different levels compared with the other main operating systems out there. For a laptop I prefer Windows because again it's easily available and does everything I need in a laptop. I did briefly consider a chromebook too but the fact you can't download much onto them put me off, and I find MAC's confusing. For tablets though I prefer Apple as I find iPad's run a lot more smoothly as a tablet than any others I've tried before. My iPad is getting quite old now, but it still works just as well as when I first got it. The same can't be said for the Android tablet I got, which was sluggish after just a few months.
  37. 1 point
    Came across some romantic and sweet quotes? Share them with us, so that we can use them and suddenly become way more romantic to our lovers. ? But do remember to credit the source you found! "Your voice is my favorite sound." - tweet by @whomikey
  38. 1 point
    Whenever I need to chillax, I usually just wait for the weekend and spend a WHOLE DAY at the beach! It's only 1 hour away, so I just 'force' my girlfriend to come along (she doesn't always want to go, but once we're there, she actually enjoys it... ) and we just lay there. Looking at he water, listening to the waves. Also, my favorite part, lying on the air mattress in the water. That's all I need. I don't even need a cocktail to feel good, beach and water is all that matters Of course, this only works when warm. During winter, it's wine, book, blanket and girlfriend by my side
  39. 1 point
    Yeah, it can have that effect you mention @Laneorexorcist, but I think she might have written it not only to herself, but also to other 14 year old girls who are going through the same pains she was, most likely feeling misfit and wrong in this world, and that letter can be a good help for them. All in all, great that she wrote it.
  40. 1 point
    I'm really sorry to hear about your situation! And no... I think that I haven't had trust issues when it comes to a romantic relationship because I guess that I haven't been on a situation like that before but I have had trust issues with friends... When I feel that they don't have the best intentions or even if I know that they are in danger but don't want to be completely honest about it I get those feelings... I guess that it's always a good thing to talk.
  41. 1 point
    Omg this thread is hilarious. I am in tears from laughing. I want to quote every one really but that's just not possible. Guys you are all so cool. I don't associate a kiss with prediction of how a relationship will go. I think kisses these days are just too casual to solely mean the "I love you" statement. A kiss should just be natural though and not done fir the sake of it. I don't expect a kiss in every date but if it happens then well, it's a bonus I guess as long as you actually liked the guy or the girl.
  42. 1 point
    My GF criticises me a lot. Well when you're in an irrational moment, you'll definitely feel too much. But when you became rational and think thoroughly about it, you will know where she's coming from. There are a lot of things I need to improve about myself so I will accept her criticism and comparisons. In fact, sometimes I prefer her to nag me about how I can improve myself because I know I'm flawed in many things and always repeat the same mistakes and so on. But I surely prefer that she delivers her points using a polite way. My limit is, never compare me to any of her exes. But because she's indeed very good at dealing things in terms of attitudes and behaviours (I'm not saying I'm all bad though ) due to how she was brought up, I'm willing to listen to her. She has a lot of patience in improving me throughout the years (you can see how stubborn i am for her to try to improve me for years!), I don't see why I don't have the patience to listen to her, as long as she conveys it in a polite way.
  43. 1 point
    Well for me, piercings can be a form of art as well, or somehow tradition especially in tribes. In our country, there's a trend wherein people make tunnels on their ears (which I find disgusting and mesmerizing at once) if you're familiar with it. Most people tend to look at them as if they are weird or something, some are amazed and some really don't care. So I think it's just fine if people do whatever they please with their body. After all, people will always judge with what they see, no matter how good it is. So better do what makes you happy, as long as you don't hurt or offend other people
  44. 1 point
    I know, right? I've never felt so out of place like that time... But it's something that a lot of us have to deal with, and the best thing that we can to is to inform them correctly so that won't happen again with another person!
  45. 1 point
    Love is a very strong feeling. It's a lot stronger that liking someone. But it doesn't have to hurt, @Terry, I am in love with my partner and it doesn't hurt, on the contrary! It's uplifting and very rewarding. I think love is something positive, so if it hurts than something must be wrong there..
  46. 1 point
    Talking about kissing on a first date though, is again adding more pressure to yourself and as far as I'm concerned there really shouldn't be any set rules about what to do and what not to. If the date goes well and you instantly have a connection, then at the end of the date I don't see anything wrong with a kiss. If you aren't comfortable or the date is a disaster, then there's also nothing wrong with just walking away so it should depend on how you feel at that moment. If we set ourselves rules about what we should and shouldn't do, then I think that we sometimes miss out on opportunities. Also who says what's a good kiss and what's a bad kiss? If you have the perfect date with the man or woman of your dreams but on that first kiss you don't get that spark, do you walk away there and then? The second kiss might have been amazing and it was because they or you was nervous why it didn't go the way you wanted the first time and you'll have missed out then.
  47. 1 point
    I really didn't mean for this to turn out so "dramatic" LOL!! But, seriously, think about having a great time with someone and then you kiss and it's awful! Did anyone here watch Sex and the City? There was an episode where one of the girls goes on a date and it went well, but then the guy is a horrible kisser (actually, I recall he literally licked her face.. gross!). While I have to say, I never-ever compare TV with real life, can you imagine having a girlfriend who you didn't like to kiss? I think kissing is very intimate, so it has to feel right.
  48. 1 point
    A hah! I found the issue! Sorry about that. It's now fixed!
  49. 1 point
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  50. 1 point
    I don't think cheating has a place in any relationship, whether it is between women or not. Cheating hurts, and no one should keep going through it just to stay in an unfaithful relationship. I'd probably try to talk to your friend and convince her that there are other fish in the sea, and that she deserves better than someone who would cheat on her repeatedly.
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