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  1. Hi Carlie, welcome and nice to meet you.
  2. What do you do when you're in a cold war with your partner? This is referring to that you're not living together and your partner is ignoring your calls and all.
  3. Hi @TheLostgirl. Welcome aboard (if i haven't welcomed you personally) I remember i was also lonely many years ago (not that I'm not lonely now, it's because I have a GF now) because I'm also from a country that doesn't recognise LGBT. I went to co-ed school and then girl school, then college and university. The happiest years were when I'm in a girl school (high school). Crushes happen during those years the most. But, friends around me were and are normally straight. So whoever i fall for, they're normally straight. Thus, i was quite lonely inside. I knew my first GF and current GF only when I'm in college (not knowing they are Les/bi ). All I wanted to say is it's about patience and timing. One good thing now is that we have dating apps in this era, so it's much easier for you to befriend LGBT people. It doesn't fully help coping but it probably helps a little. Even now I have very little LGBT friends but I mix quite well with my straight friends as I already came out to them after years of being friends. So it really depends on where you're from.
  4. I am never ready to come out to my parents. But i think the best moment is when you know your parents' view about LGBT. Let say they might say something good or nasty about LGBT. That's when you get a clue on whether or not it's the best time to come out to them.
  5. My weakness is that I cannot just ignore any negative feelings, and this often impact my day. Told myself to ignore, but it's much harder than I thought. But one thing for sure is, I can see changes in myself over the years, I am still affected a lot by negative feelings, but not as much as it used to be.
  6. I think people often took "being drunk" as an excuse. And if I were in your friend's position, I wouldn't forgive both of them. Knowing that it will cause some consequences they still proceeded with their actions. I know it's always easy to say, but no matter how drunk a person is, he/she knows what he/she is trying to do.
  7. Hi Shasha, welcome (sorry for the late!) here Speaking of Taiwan, I hope they pass the same sex marriage bill.
  8. I hate this kind of situation. I often not strong/insist enough to be the one that start talking about it. And this kind of people often take it for granted and won't think from your perspectives! I would also like to ask the same question, have you talked about it to your hubby? Does he share the same thoughts with you?
  9. For me, it could be because I have had way too many crushes on women but not for men. I guess that's how I know I am *very* gay. I am also extra touched and excited (?) when I saw two women kissing each other (just like how straight girls love watching straight couples kiss in movies/drama?). And you would want to know them, get close to them and confess to them about your feelings.
  10. My country is one of those that decided to cut the "gay" scene because "children will turn gay if they watch that". WTF. And now Disney gives our government two choices: 1) release the movie without cutting any scene, or 2) don't release at all. I personally prefer the second choice, because IMO there's no point to release the movie in my country unwillingly and cause LGBT community in my country being attacked. It's so much easier to watch movies legally (just a bit later) on the internet these days. So why worry? But of course, the positive is, through this incident, I saw many non-LGBT people stood up for us. Is the "gay" scene banned in your place/country?
  11. "Pretty sure we're both women" Sent from my iPad using mobile app
  12. I would say only introduce her to your mom when you're both ready. Have you introduced her to your mom since the last time you asked?
  13. Sorry for the late welcome, @whitetiger37. On- or off-site, good luck in finding the special someone.
  14. Yep time definitely flies! Can't believe I am almost 30 years old but still act like a teenager!
  15. Hey Jovanna, welcome aboard! I like that when new members get themselves acquainted. Thanks for doing so. Anyway, I am 27 too, soon will turn 28 in August. I can vouch for most of our forum members here being nice, friendly, open and so on!